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Aurora Snow’s The Daily Beast article drops
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Setting up Restorative Justice Process
Reid initiates a restorative justice-based accountability process. An accountability pod consisting of Angel Adeyoha, Alex Morgan, Heather Elizabeth and Cassandra Perry is formed. A survivor support pod is also formed to support those harmed. The two pods work together to center those harmed, hold Reid accountable, and support the amends making process. -
Reid Posts Public Apology on Facebook
Five days after reading Aurora Snow's article, I post a public apology to Kelly on Facebook. Link to apology -
Alex Morgan Joins Reid's Accountability Pod
Alex Morgan announces that Reid has initiated a restorative justice process, has begun forming an accountability pod, and that Alex has joined the pod. Link to Alex's announcement -
Reid Steps Down From Teaching
On Reid's Facebook page: "Effective immediately, I will not be booking or teaching any gigs. As I receive new information from my community about other harms I've caused to people, it is irresponsible that I teach sex ed until I've done some serious self-analysis and deep, deep work on myself. With my community's support and vigilance,..."
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1st Anonymous Reporting Link Created
Alex Morgan creates an anonymous reporting form and Reid's accountability pod begins collecting additional reports of harm and misconduct. This reporting method gets swapped out on 2/20/18 in favor of the survivor support pod's anonymous reporting form and collection process headed up by Aida Manduley and Sarah Sloane. -
Moderation Policy for Apology Thread Created
To address the huge mistake of posting a public apology without any moderation strategy, my pod and I institute the following: "MODERATION POLICY UPDATE -
These discussions reactivate trauma and can directly cause harm in our communities. Going forward, on this thread and other moderated areas where this is discussed, this comments policy will be applied to reduce that harm...." Read the entire policy -
Angel Adeyoha Joins Reid's Accountability Pod
From Angel Adeyoha's Facebook page: "I’ve agreed to work as a paid consultant/community ethics liaison on Reid Mihalko's accountability pod. I want to be open and transparent with my community about this process and my motivations for several reasons. These type of consent violations and abuses of power are...." -
Kelly Begins Forming Her Support Pod
Kelly sends email communication to roundup interested people to form her support pod. Her pod is initially comprised of Sarah Sloane, Tristan Taormino, Aida Manduley, Shanna Katz, Erin Kennedy, AV Flox, and a community member (referred to as X) who did not wish to be publicly identified. Link to post by the survivor pod -
Reid Secures Therapist for Weekly Sessions
As a part of my commitment to my accountability process, I found a therapist who was not a cis, white man, who was familiar with restorative justice and harm reductive approaches and began ongoing, weekly therapy sessions. -
Aida Manduley Announces Kelly's Support Pod
Aida Manduley announces the members of Kelly's support pod via Facebook post: "Kelly's support pod is currently comprised of Sarah Sloane, Tristan Taormino, Erin Kennedy, Aida Manduley, Shanna Katz Kattari, Anaiis Flox, and a community member who does not wish to be publicly identified." Shifts in membership and a renaming of the pod to "the survivor support pod" get announced here. -
Kelly's Support Pod Announces Own Anonymous Reporting Collection Form
From Aida Manduley's Facebook: "ANNOUNCEMENT & ASK: I'm part of Kelly Shibari's support pod in dealing with the aftermath of disclosing her experiences of sexual misconduct at the hands of Reid Mihalko. My role in the pod, along with Sarah Sloane, is to collect other people's stories of similar experiences with Reid, analyze them, and help inform the accountability processes...."
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Heather Elizabeth Joins Reid’s Pod
From Heather Elizabeth's FB announcement: "Announcement to my communities: I am part of Reid Mihalko's accountability pod.
I've taken on this role because it is part of my ethics around how I want to be with my friends when they cause harm. Yes, Reid is a friend. We've been connected in a number of ways for many years, and I have been transparent about that with the other accountability pod members. That history is the least of my...."
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Cassandra Perry Joins Reid’s Pod
From Cassandra's blog post: "I was asked to be a member of Reid Mihalko’s accountability pod. After thinking it over for some time, I accepted, but not for reasons that might be assumed...."
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Reid's Accountability Process Blog Goes Live
Under the advisement of my pod, I created "Reid Mihalko's Accountability Process" on Medium.com. This publication will be where my pod and I post all future, outward-facing updates for my accountability process. "Updates on my accountability work & structures for transparency…" becomes the first update I publish on this channel. I then announce this post on my social media channels to spread awareness. -
Reid’s Accountability Pod Members Announced
I announce the full list of my accountability pod members in a Facebook thread post.
The pod consists of four members:
• Angel Adeyoha
• Alex S. Morgan
• Heather Elizabeth
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Identifying Reid's harmful patterns/behaviors + implement steps to reduce harm
The survivor support pod works on collecting the anonymous reporting data and amends requests from those harmed. Reid and his pod, while waiting on the anonymous reporting data, discuss what might be his patterns of harm. Reid, with the help of his pod take steps to reduce current harms with appropriate actions like creating a moderation policy for the FB apology thread, Reid stepping down from teaching, and Reid canceling speaking and teaching gigs and refunding ticket sales. -
Soft Deadline for Submitting Anonymous Reporting to “Sharing Stories of Reid Mihalko’s Misconduct” Form
The soft deadline for the survivor support pod's anonymous story collections arrives. -
Reid Initiates Content Audit of His Work
In an effort to prevent "teaching my blindspots" I suggest to my pod the idea of me doing a "content audit" of all my teaching materials. I begin compiling my educational resources and handouts with the intention of taking what I'm learning and being shown by this process and updating my materials. -
1st Round of Anonymous Reporting Analysis Completed
First round of anonymous reporting analysis completed by Aida Manduley and Sarah Sloan. Analysis disseminated within the survivor support pod. Link to details -
Reid Cancels Sex Geek Summer Camp 2018
I cancel Sex Geek Summer Camp 2018. An announcement goes out to ticket holders and alumni with information on refund options. -
Reid "Freezes" ReidAboutSex.com Homepage and Announces It In 2nd Blog Update
I "freeze" the ReidAboutSex.com website homepage with an accountability process announcement and link to the Medium.com blog. I also begin FWD’ing passive income URLs to Medium.com blog. "Website Updated To Reflect My Accountability Process" becomes the 2nd update I publish on the blog. I then announce this post on my social media channels to spread awareness. -
Reid's Pod Publishes Their 1st Update - "Updates from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod"
"Updates from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod" is published by Heather Elizabeth on behalf of Reid’s pod. I announce this post on Facebook and Twitter to promote awareness. -
Digital Town Hall Meeting Held for Sex Geek Summer Camp Ticket Holders and Camp Alumni
To help answer questions about Sex Geek Summer Camp's cancelation and address my accountability process with the camper community, my pod and I hosted a Digital Town Hall Meeting and Q&A on Zoom.com for Sex Geek Summer Camp ticket holders and Camp Alumni to attend. The recording of that call was made available to ticket holders and alumni who could not attend. -
Sex Geek Summer Camp Cancelation Made Public in His 3rd Update Post
"2018 Sex Geek Summer Camp Announcement and Overview…" becomes my 3rd post on the accountability blog. I then announce this post on my social media channels to spread awareness. -
Reid's Pod Publishes Their 2nd Update - "Town Hall Reflections from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod"
"Town Hall Reflections from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability pod" is published by Heather Elizabeth on behalf of Reid’s pod. I then announce this post on my social media channels to spread awareness. -
1st Intra-Pod Meeting To Discuss Anonymous Reporting Data
The survivor support pod and Reid's pod have their 1st meeting via Zoom.us to discuss anonymous reporting data that will eventually be shared with Reid. Link that call happened -
Reid’s Pod Prepares Data To Share with Reid
Reid’s pod discusses anonymous reporting data with themselves, looking for harmful patterns in Reid's behavior. Prepares to share information with Reid. -
Reid Receives Anonymous Reporting Analysis
Reid's pod emails Reid the survivor support pod’s original draft of their anonymous reporting analysis and high-level overview. Reid has group call with his pod to go over anonymous reporting information results. See the survivor support pod's public post of that information HERE. -
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Amends making process and addressing harmful patterns/Harm reduction approach process
Reid receives the data from the anonymous reporting collection that was processed by the survivor support pod. Now with more information, Reid's pod and therapist help Reid process his harmful patterns and how he can upgrade his beliefs, behaviors and actions to reduce future harms. -
Reid Issues a Private Apology To Anonymous Reporter
During the anonymous reporting that was collected by the survivor support pod, one person requested an apology. On 5/14/18, I sent my apology to my pod who forwarded it to the survivor support pod who forwarded it to the individual. -
2nd Intra-Pod Meeting To Discuss Kelly's Requests
2nd intra-pod meeting to discuss Kelly's requests and anonymous reporting data. -
3rd Intra-Pod Call via Zoom
3rd intra-pod call via Zoom. -
Survivor Support Pod Publishes 1st Post
The survivor support pod creates "Survivor Support Pod 4 Reid Mihalko Accountability" blog on Medium.com, and publishes their first post, "History & Functioning published by the survivor support pod". -
Survivor Support Pod Publishes 2nd Post
Survivor support pod publishes 2nd post: "Story Collection Overview and Analysis." -
Kelly Steps Back from Direct Participation Announced By The Survivor Support Pod
The survivor support pod posts that Kelly has stepped back from direct participation with the survivor pod process, but is still being updated on an as-needed-basis. Link to announcement -
Reid Publishes 4th Update - "Where I’m at Currently in my Accountability Process" published on Medium.com.
"Where I’m at Currently in my Accountability Process" becomes the 4th update I publish on this channel. I then announce this post on my social media channels to spread awareness. -
Reid's Accountability Process Resource List made public
Reid makes the "Reid Mihalko's Accountability Process Resource List" Google Doc public. Liink to Google Doc -
4th Intra-Pod Meeting via Zoom
Both pods meet for the 4th time via Zoom. -
Reid Promotes Survivor Support Pod's Blog in 5th Update
I post, "Update: The Survivor Support Pod for Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Process is Posting at the Following Location…", to alert people where they can find the survivor support pod's information. This becomes my 5th update on this channel. I then announced this post on my social media to spread awareness. -
Reid's Pod Publishes 3rd Update - "Accountability Pod Updates and Reflections on Direct Work with Reid"
Heather Elizabeth, on behalf of Reid’s pod, publishes "Accountability Pod Updates and Reflections on Direct Work with Reid." This is the pod's 3rd update. In it, each pod member shares their reflections from working with me in this process. I shared this post on social media. -
Reid Publishes 6th Update - "Reid's New Commitments Moving Forward"
"Reid’s New Commitments Moving Forward", becomes my 6th update on this channel. In it, I share what will be my commitments to my community and to myself based on what I've learned in this accountability process. I then announced this post on my social media to spread awareness. -
Reid's Pod Publishes 4th Update - "Reid Mihalko Accountability pod’s Next Steps in Winding Down"
Heather Elizabeth, on behalf of Reid's pod, posts "Reid Mihalko Accountability pod’s Next Steps in Winding Down". This is their 4th update. Heather shares that this accountability process is coming to a close and explains the pod's current and next steps. I shared this post on social media to increase awareness. -
Reid Publishes 7th Update - "My Plan for Reintegrating and Rebuilding Trust With My Community"
"My Plan for Reintegrating and Rebuilding Trust With My Community" becomes my 7th post on the Medium accountability blog. In it, I lay out the several month reintegration process my pod and I will use to bring my accountability process to a close and what my eventual return to teaching will look like. -
Mentor Search: Reid's Pod Begins Search for Mentor
Wanting Reid to have continuing education and support after the formal accountability process ends, Reid's pod begins looking for possible mentors for Reid. -
Mentor Search: Reid Contacts Potential Mentor
With the help of my pod, I reach out to their recommended potential mentor and schedule a conversation to discuss what continuing education/mentoring would look like and to see if we might be a good fit for one another. -
Mentor Search: M'Kali-Hashiki and Reid Discuss Mentoring Arrangement
I meet with potential mentor, M'kali-Hashiki, on Zoom to disucss a potential mentoring arrangement. It feels like a good fit for us both, and we agree to test-drive a few sessions before committing to an ongoing mentoring relationship. -
Dec-Jan: Phase 1—Reid's Reintegration Process Begins
December 2018-January 2019 — Phase 1 of my Reintegration Process - With Reid's pod announcing in September that the formal accountability process has begun winding down and my mentoring relationship set to begin, I create this Timetoast timeline, prepare the accountability blog's final post, and begin preparations to re-enter community via social media and non-teaching public appearances. -
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Phase 1 of Reid's Reintegration Plan Begins
Reid's pod announces in September that the formal accountability process has begun winding down. In December, with my mentoring relationship set to begin, Phase 1 of the reintegration process mapped out in the "My Plan for Reintegrating and Rebuilding Trust With My Community" post begins. -
Reid Creates Workshop Flyer for Accountability Transparency
As a part of my commitment to being transparent about my accountability process after the formal accountability process ends, I suggested to my pod that I create a flyer that I would make available at all future speaking and teaching appearances that would provide information and resources on this process, it's outcomes, and restorative justice-based approaches. The pod agreed it was a good idea. The 1st iteration of the flyer was sent to Angel Adeyoha in early December of 2018. -
Angel Adeyoha and Reid co-appear at Transgressors Support Group
Angel Adeyoha and I co-appear at Dossie Easton’s transgressors support group meeting for us to speak about my accountability process and encourage others to consider RJ/TJ approaches when addressing harm. -
Reid Prepares Content Audit Materials for Mentoring Session
In preparation for my first mentoring session with M'kali-Hashiki, I prepare and send content audit materials to M'kali-Hashiki for review. I also share the upgraded content with my pod for their feedback as well. -
Mentor Search Complete: Reid Begins Mentoring Relationship with M'kali-Hashiki
I begin an ongoing mentoring relationship with M'kali-Hashiki to ensure that my education and support around intersectionality continues on after this formal accountability process ends. -
Reid's Pod Announces Formal Process Has Ended
Heather Elizabeth, on behalf of Reid's pod, posts "Final Posting from Reid Mihalko’s Accountability Pod." This is the pod's 5th and final update. Heather shares that the formal accountability process is now at an end, ties up loose ends, and what to expect next from the pod and myself. I shared this post on social media to increase awareness. -
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Formal Accountability Process Ends and Phases 2 thru 4 of Reid's Reintegration Process Begin
Both pods agree that it is time for the formal accountability process to officially end. Reid begins Phases 2 thru 4 of the reintegration process mapped out in the "My Plan for Reintegrating and Rebuilding Trust With My Community" post. -
Jan-Feb: Phase 2—Reid's Reintegration Process
January-February 2019 — Phase 2 of my Reintegration Process - The final accountability blog post is published. I resume social media, starting by driving awareness to the accountability blog and the formal process' end, then promoting rj/tj and accountability resources, and boosting other educators’ work. I begin emailing my email subscribers again, informing them of the accountability blog. I begin making non-teaching appearances at public events. -
Reid Publishes Final Accountability Update - Resources, Timeline, and Final Words from Reid Mihalko's Accountability Process
With his pod's approval, Reid publishes Resources, Timeline, and Final Words from Reid Mihalko's Accountability Process, the final accountability blog post. -
Reid Drives Awareness To The Accountability Blog And That The Formal Process Has Ended
On social media, I begin driving awareness to the accountability blog resources and that the formal process has ended. -
Feb-Mar: Phase 3—Reid's Reintegration Process
February-March 2019 — Phase 3 of my Reintegration Process - Begin releasing updated content from my content audit, ReidAboutSex.com "unforzen," and will begin considering to accept teaching gigs once again. -
Reid Resumes Non-Teaching Public Appearances
Reid begins appearing at public events with more frequency and beginning to appear in non-teaching roles as part of his continued reintegration process. -
Reid Resumes Social Media Activity
Posting things other than accountability updates on social media begins. -
Reid Begins Boosting Other Educators’ Work and Restorative Justice/Transformative Justice and Accountability Resources on Social Media
January-February 2019 — Phase 2 of my Reintegration Process - I will begin boosting other educators’ work and restorative justice/transformative justice and accountability work resources on my social media. -
Reid shoots Facebook Live About His Accountability Process
Reid shoots Facebook Live to inform folks that his formal Accountability Process has come to close and that he will be announcing Sex Geek Summer Camp and starting teaching again soon. Reid includes that the Accountability Pod's Gmail email is still alive and being checked for folks who have things to share or report. -
Survivor Support Pod posts Formal Wrap-Up Post from Survivors Pod on Medium
"Formal Wrap-Up Post from Survivors Pod," the 3rd and final blog entry is published on Medium via the Survivor Support Pod. -
Mar-Apr: Phase 4—Reid's Reintegration Process
March-April 2019 — Phase 4 of my Reintegration Process - Reintegration process completed. I will resume creating and promoting sex and relationship content and teaching and coaching. May consider speaking about my accountability process if I can co-appear with someone actively involved in restorative/transformative justice and accountablility work. -
[Planned] Reid Resumes Emailing Newsletter Subscribers
January-February 2019 [Actual Implementation March 2019] — Phase 2 of my Reintegration Process - I begin emailing my newsletter subscriber lists again. In the first emails, I will inform subscribers of the accountability process, give a summary, and direct them to the Medium blog and restorative justice resources. -
[Planned] Reid Begins Considering/Accepting Invitations To Speak And Teach Sex Education
March/April 2019 — Phase 3 of my Reintegration Process - I will resume considering invitations to speak and teach sex and relationship topics. I will accept gigs if I feel they are appropriate. -
Reid Address Concerns On Public Transparency via Twitter Thread
To address concerns that his return to teaching will misinform and obfuscate Reid's Accountability Process from the public, Reid laid your his current practices for transparency moving forward on Twitter with screenshots and links. -
[Planned] Reid Begins Releasing Updated Resources and Handouts
February-March 2019 — Phase 3 of my Reintegration Process - Working from my content audit, I will begin releasing updated resources and handouts to my mailing lists and on social media. -
[Planned] Reid Resumes Creating And Promoting Educational Content
March-April 2019 — Phase 4 of my Reintegration Process - I will resume creating and promoting sex and relationship content, teaching and coaching. -
[Planned] ReidAboutSex.com homepage "unfrozen"
February-March 2019 — Phase 3 of my Reintegration Process - I will restore my ReidAboutSex.com homepage and my website becomes fully accessible again. I will redirect my passive income URLs away from the ReidAboutSex.com homepage and back to the programs that have been upgraded to contain information from the content audit. -
[Planned] Reid Considers Co-appearing To Speak About His Accountability Process
March-April 2019 — Phase 4 of my Reintegration Process - I will consider invitations to speak about my accountability experience. I will only accept these invites with the caveat that appearances to speak specifically about my accountability process are shared with someone who is actively involved in RJ/TJ and accountability work. -
Mentoring & Therapy Continues
I will continue mentoring and therapy sessions as I return to teaching, speaking, and creating content. -
Questions About This Process?
Questions or concerns about this accountability process? Please feel free to contact me directly or email my pod at rmpod2018@gmail.com. That email is checked regularly by members of my pod and we thank you for your patience in advance. I will not have access to this gmail account and all communications will be held as confidential unless otherwise indicated by the sender.
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